Post by keeperofthehome on Aug 16, 2008 8:07:07 GMT -5
Hoping that we would never need to use a parental control program we have found that we are now in need of it. Unfortunately hubby's 15 yr old is allowed to go to his friend's homes and use the internet unsupervised, therefore helping to open the doors to his viewing of pornography (that we do know of) and who knows what else. The parents of the friends seem to show no care or concern either. The boys all think it's funny and no big deal. He is also given way too much lax parental supervision at his mother's home. When hubby's ex was informed of his doings (I found images on his digital camera that were taken of the internet screen of graphic porn) hubby said she was "surprised. She always seems to be surprised by things but in essence doesn't parent him after the fact or before to keep it from happening in the first place.
Stepson was living with us since Feb. of this year but since we have rules (most i try to enforce but hubby is lax on but now trying to tighten up on) he cussed me out to my face, spit on me, called me several choice words that are VERY inappropriate and told his father that he is going back to his mom's to live.
Ok, at this point I have had way too many years of him being allowed by hubby in our home to disrespect me and treat me in this manner, so I am happy to have him go back to hid moms. He has repeatedly told me that he hates me and wants me out of his Daddy's life. Well, hubby never stands up for me to his son (another issue but I won't go into detail) so we have no relationship at all (stepson & I) that is, but this last week, hubby actually told his son that although he was hurt that he was going back to his mom's and he would only have every other weekend as it has always been he will not have him tear up his marriage. This is the FIRST time ever that he has stood up for our marriage to his son, so I give him credit for that. Even after his son went back to mommy, we got into a heated argument but he said that he loves me and will not loose me. So if it means that when his son is in our home, the two of us don't speak or deal with each other then he will have to deal with it. But he is not going to loose his family over this. I know hubby loves me, I know that but it's his previous buddy style parenting of his son that has helped to have him raise a lazy, disrespectful child. It doesn't help that mom is morally lack example and that is what he has seen day in and day out. Hubby has never had his son full time so I know he wants it to be a fun time when he is with him and not always a discipline time but you have to do what you have to do to be a good parent.
So moving on, we have agreed that we are going to install a parental control program on our home computers. That way here his son will have no way to get into wrong things. (He knows right from wrong but he is hanging around poor influences and is letting "being cool" override morals.) We are looking at Net Nanny right now. Do you have any suggestions or comments on a good filter system to use?
Stepson was living with us since Feb. of this year but since we have rules (most i try to enforce but hubby is lax on but now trying to tighten up on) he cussed me out to my face, spit on me, called me several choice words that are VERY inappropriate and told his father that he is going back to his mom's to live.
Ok, at this point I have had way too many years of him being allowed by hubby in our home to disrespect me and treat me in this manner, so I am happy to have him go back to hid moms. He has repeatedly told me that he hates me and wants me out of his Daddy's life. Well, hubby never stands up for me to his son (another issue but I won't go into detail) so we have no relationship at all (stepson & I) that is, but this last week, hubby actually told his son that although he was hurt that he was going back to his mom's and he would only have every other weekend as it has always been he will not have him tear up his marriage. This is the FIRST time ever that he has stood up for our marriage to his son, so I give him credit for that. Even after his son went back to mommy, we got into a heated argument but he said that he loves me and will not loose me. So if it means that when his son is in our home, the two of us don't speak or deal with each other then he will have to deal with it. But he is not going to loose his family over this. I know hubby loves me, I know that but it's his previous buddy style parenting of his son that has helped to have him raise a lazy, disrespectful child. It doesn't help that mom is morally lack example and that is what he has seen day in and day out. Hubby has never had his son full time so I know he wants it to be a fun time when he is with him and not always a discipline time but you have to do what you have to do to be a good parent.
So moving on, we have agreed that we are going to install a parental control program on our home computers. That way here his son will have no way to get into wrong things. (He knows right from wrong but he is hanging around poor influences and is letting "being cool" override morals.) We are looking at Net Nanny right now. Do you have any suggestions or comments on a good filter system to use?