Post by keeperofthehome on Apr 10, 2009 7:25:09 GMT -5
Ok, long story short...
Hubby & I started attending a Church last August and became members. Well, one of the members is an ex-girl friend of my husbands. (we did not know she attended this Church) They dated back in high school (he is 40+ so that was a L-O-N-G time ago.) Hubby stated that they broke up because she was cheating on him with one of his friends.
Moving up to now...
I have seen her looking at my husband during Church in very inappropriate ways (regardless to the fact that her husband was right there and so was I.) When greeting us she always makes it a point to hug my husband (as well as myself.) I normally have no issues with this. However I found out last night from a very reliable source that this ex-girl friend has made it known to several of the other members that she & my husband dated years ago. (This is a small Church so telling a few people is like telling 50% or more of the congregation.) She also told my information source that "every time I look at him I imagine him naked and us having s_x together."
This has really upset me. It is a slap in my face & a slap in the face of our marriage. Not to mention her own husband and marriage. I have told hubby before that I didn't care for inappropriate looks and comments of how handsome he looks when she talks to me. But he just kind of let it go. He just reminds me that he is married to me and that I am the only one he loves.
I told him this latest information last night and how I was very upset about it. I said how it offended me that she would think these thoughts (which is the same as adultery according to the Word of GOD...
Matthew 5:27-28 "Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.")
Hubby said that it offended him too, but ultimately he is at this Church to serve to GOD. Now I know that he would never forsake his wedding vows (he is very much a faithful, trustworthy man.) But the fact remains that I feel she is way out of line and I don't like it!
We are all in the Easter drama, in fact she is one of the characters that I have to work very closely with in our scene. Right now I will admit it is feeling like a challenge for me to want to work with her. However, I know that this drama is about the LORD and saving souls; not my personal issues, so I am going to press in.
Sisters, I just don't know how to handle this. I honestly can not tolerate her inappropriate looks, actions/words and thoughts. My carnal self wants to confront her but my information source told me this in confidence. I do not want to break that. But on the other hand I really want to give her a good what for. *grin* I am trying to pray and ask GOD to keep me and guide me in this but the whole thing has my stomach in knots and my feelings very hurt.
Hubby & I started attending a Church last August and became members. Well, one of the members is an ex-girl friend of my husbands. (we did not know she attended this Church) They dated back in high school (he is 40+ so that was a L-O-N-G time ago.) Hubby stated that they broke up because she was cheating on him with one of his friends.
Moving up to now...
I have seen her looking at my husband during Church in very inappropriate ways (regardless to the fact that her husband was right there and so was I.) When greeting us she always makes it a point to hug my husband (as well as myself.) I normally have no issues with this. However I found out last night from a very reliable source that this ex-girl friend has made it known to several of the other members that she & my husband dated years ago. (This is a small Church so telling a few people is like telling 50% or more of the congregation.) She also told my information source that "every time I look at him I imagine him naked and us having s_x together."
This has really upset me. It is a slap in my face & a slap in the face of our marriage. Not to mention her own husband and marriage. I have told hubby before that I didn't care for inappropriate looks and comments of how handsome he looks when she talks to me. But he just kind of let it go. He just reminds me that he is married to me and that I am the only one he loves.
I told him this latest information last night and how I was very upset about it. I said how it offended me that she would think these thoughts (which is the same as adultery according to the Word of GOD...
Matthew 5:27-28 "Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.")
Hubby said that it offended him too, but ultimately he is at this Church to serve to GOD. Now I know that he would never forsake his wedding vows (he is very much a faithful, trustworthy man.) But the fact remains that I feel she is way out of line and I don't like it!
We are all in the Easter drama, in fact she is one of the characters that I have to work very closely with in our scene. Right now I will admit it is feeling like a challenge for me to want to work with her. However, I know that this drama is about the LORD and saving souls; not my personal issues, so I am going to press in.
Sisters, I just don't know how to handle this. I honestly can not tolerate her inappropriate looks, actions/words and thoughts. My carnal self wants to confront her but my information source told me this in confidence. I do not want to break that. But on the other hand I really want to give her a good what for. *grin* I am trying to pray and ask GOD to keep me and guide me in this but the whole thing has my stomach in knots and my feelings very hurt.