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Post by rjrjhs on Jul 10, 2007 6:13:29 GMT -5
hello! My name is Traci. I am a mom of 6 wonderful kids. I am a very blessed lady. I have always home schooled our children until last school year. We put them in Christian school near our home. After much prayer and Lord's leading we are bringing the kids back home. I can not believe how nervous I am. I feel like I am a new home school mom. I home schooled for 8 yrs before. Five of our children are in school this year. They range from 8th grade to K-4. I also have a 2 yr old. I am struggling with my 10 yr old boy. He seems to be so lazy. Any advice on how to correct this trend? Thanks so much!!!
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lanabelle
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Post by lanabelle on Jul 10, 2007 14:15:52 GMT -5
I admire you! I have one son who is 6 (turning 7 in September) and another son who was 4 in June. My oldest has been in public school for 3 years, he finished the 1st grade in May and we have made the decision to homeschool, I'm nervous about that! I believe that the Lord led me to this web site, not only can I meet good Christian sisters to talk to but this will be like a support group! I don't know if your kids are like my oldest, but it seems like all he wants to do is lay on the couch and watch TV, which I limit, it's so hot that I'm ashamed to make them stay outside,what's a mom on a tight budget to do? I don't really have any advice about a 10 year old, I have nieces but they are totally different than boys. God Bless you and not to lift you up but you are an inspiration to a girl like me. Those children will grow up and prosper and look back at a mom who cared and gave of herself.
Lana
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shazdove
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Post by shazdove on Sept 8, 2007 8:04:40 GMT -5
My grandson is 10yr old and he is lazy. He is raised by his dad and I help out a lot. Getting him to do anything is so frustrating, I guess he doesn't consider chores as important as we do. What I have done is made up a very simple chart that lasts a week at a time and put about 8 chores on it but nothing too challenging and included doing homework and saying his prayers. I put this on the fridge and bought him a pk of colored stars. For each chore he gets done he gets to put a star on the chart. His father will review it at the end of the week and give him some pocket money. This could be treats instead of money. He seems pretty excited about it as he starts it tomorrow so I will let you know how it goes. You are so blessed to have 6 children.
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tbhas6
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Post by tbhas6 on Sept 8, 2007 14:45:10 GMT -5
Hi Tracy, I can relate to difficulty in training boys. I am the mother of 4 boys, 1 girl. A book that has really helped in training our children is "To Train Up A Child" by Michael & Debi Pear you can obtain a copy through www.NoGreaterJoy.org . The primary thing I came away with from reading this book is that is is VITAL to be consistant in my training. And I learned that when my children exemplify Godly character I need to reward them. However, it is just as important that when they demonstrate ungodly behaviors, they need to suffer negative consequences for those ungodly behaviors. The author of this book does endorse spanking, but if you and your husband don't agree with spanking you can alway impliment other forms of dicipline, ie., restrictions from certain activities, no desserts, extra chores, etc. I hope this helps and I'll be praying for you ... tb
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jalynn
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Post by jalynn on Sept 17, 2007 10:44:02 GMT -5
I didn't have any problems with my first family a son & a daughter as bored was a word they learned to avoid early on....tv. nope...we had one but no time for it. We did "favors" for others as "planting seeds". My son would mow lawns and if they were elderly he wouldn't charge...my daughter helped bag the clippings, etc. and yes Mom helped too...we sewed things & baked for others in the winter. Now we're raising my hubby's granddaughters and the oldest is "slow" and lazy...teaching her life skills is a must ...the younger one is 6 and we can in the summer and garden ...everyone has a job to do and it's about responsibility...no allowence either...we all work together and we just made our first batch of laundry soap....when kids at school ask what they did over the weekend or summer their answers are amazing....they put up green beans or made jelly....it's great even for boys as my son just taught his wife to sew...and can....it's something they need to learn too...! They "know" what they can get by with.....I may sound "hard hearted" but I'm a loving mom who wants her children to learn how to survive in a very vicious world....!
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tbhas6
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Post by tbhas6 on Sept 20, 2007 15:08:40 GMT -5
Jalynn,
Another hello to you ... Many folks often think of me as a "hard" parent, sooo you aren't the only one who carries that title. As a matter of fact, many friends threaten to send their children to our home for a week as punishment for their children. I really wish they wouldn't do this, I think it would be better if they (the parents) were more consistant with the discipline. Like you, I am not a hard hearted parent. My desire is for my children to learn to make wise, Godly choices and exemplify Godly character. I commend you & your husband for your efforts ... tb
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