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Post by chrisabarrett on Jul 31, 2007 19:27:24 GMT -5
My youngest just turned a year old. His tantrums are driving me insane! He throws things and screams at the top of his lungs a high pitched scream that will make your ears hurt. He does it as soon as he wakes up, in the car, while eating, if he can't reach a toy or if his 7 year old brother has something he wants. I've tried ignoring him, it gets worse, spanking him, he just crys, even sending him up to bed, thats when he screams so loud you can hear it outside and down the street. i had him to the doctors. They tell me to not even look at him when he does it. I'm stuck. My husband and I prayed so hard for another child. I have been pregnant 7 times and have only 2 living children. I start to feel like it was a mistake for us to have him but I know God makes no mistakes. I really could use some help. My husband just tells me he's glad he's not home with it all the time. I think that makes it worse. I love my little boy so much I just don't know what else to do. Can anyone help me?
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Post by blessedmom on Jul 31, 2007 23:07:04 GMT -5
The only advice I can really give is that whatever you do...be consistent. I have always chosen to ignore my kids when they throw a tantrum, and I did it every time, unless they were endangering themselves or others. They eventually knew that it wasn't going to work. If you ignore him, it is very hard those first few days, but he'll start to understand if you stay consistent with what you do. Praying for you in this. Blessings, Sara
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Post by chrisabarrett on Aug 4, 2007 8:47:51 GMT -5
thank you sara for your advice and prayers.
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Post by odellcowgirl on Aug 25, 2007 9:48:54 GMT -5
MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU. WE HAVE 3 OLDER CHILDREN(24,21,19) AND 7 YEAR OLD TRIPLETTS. MY HUSBAND HAS ALWAYS WORKED AWAY FROM HOME. 600 PLUS MILES THIS TIME. TAKE A DEEP BREATH. SAY A QUICK PRAYER AND PUNISH HIM THE FIRST TIME AND KEEP IT UP. THIS IS THE HARDEST PART. IF YOU PLACE HIM IN THE NAUGHTY CHAIR OR WHAT EVER YOU USE TELL HIM ONCE " IF YOU KEEP ACTING THIS WAY YOU WILL BE PUNISHED" THEN DO IT. I KNOW YOU WILL FEEL LIKE PULLING YOU HAIR OUT.(I THINK I STILL HAVE BALD SPOTS) BUT KEEP TO YOUR GUNS. MY CHRIST BE WITH YOU IN ALL THINGS.
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Post by tbhas6 on Sept 23, 2007 18:12:10 GMT -5
Hi Chrissabarrett,
I can relate to what you are going through. Our #3 screamed at the top of his lungs for the first four years of his life! There were days that I'd just put him in his crib and I'd sit on the porch steps crying (if he'd been my first child, I'd have returned to the doctors for steralization & NEVER had another). But it passed and he is now 17 and absoulutely one of the kindest, gentlest, humble young men you could ever meet. The crying and screaming WILL end - I pray it comes much sooner for you than it did me. One tool I aquired between #3 & #4 (an 8 year gap) is a little book called "To Train Up A Child" by Michael & Debi Pearl. Thier advice and suggestions worked wonders in our home, not only when our new little one cmae along but also with improving behaviors in the older ones.
You are in my prayers, I'd like to know how you're getting along ... tb
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