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Post by countrymomof4 on Aug 24, 2007 13:11:14 GMT -5
My preschooler is an active busy boy I am trying to control his behavior. I was wondering what everyone else is doing to disciple I have tryed time outs -taking toys away - but now I am at my whits end. He is hurting my toddler with his impulsive behavior he jumps over him when he is sitting playing with his toys quietly -needless to say my preschooler can not jump high enough to really jump over him -so he jumps on him and my Little guy gets hurt. Also my toddler is now sporting a black eye due to my preschooler flipping the laundry basket he was sitting in over onto the coffee table. I have spanked him don't get me wrong but I just don't know if it will really help or not. This is the only one of my 4 children to act this out of control. Sorry about the long novel-I am in need of prayer and advice. Blessings sisters Elizabeth
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Post by keflavik on Aug 24, 2007 15:03:52 GMT -5
Sounds like a boy! Not that it's okay for him to act like this but it is typical for a preschooler to have extra energy. The trick is to channel it to a constructive manner not necessarily control the behavior. The child needs to learn self control. In my experience, time outs only harbor the energy. Instead, try making a game out of how fast he can run around the house (or how many times w/o stopping) Playdough! I know some moms can't stand the stuff but think of how much frustration is taken out on it. Limit the time or opportunities to most profit from it. Often times, too, a preschooler has to be shown the correct way to play with a toddler as they are smaller. In the case of the laundry basket, show what fun it could be to give the toddler a "sled ride" barring any stairways! Jumping with hopscotch. Bouncy balls with those little handles are truly wonderful for wearing out a little body if you have the room! Boys will always be more active than you would like but if you can stay one step ahead of them and plan activities that help get the wiggles out, it will save a lot of heartache. I even got a hold of one of those little step counters and said if you can jump/walk so many times, you can do this . . . Works great! And the chores I can find to get done are never ending. A 4 yr old will spend all day cleaning the bathtub! Can he handle a vacuum? At this age they love to help and need direction to gain control. Mix that with being a third child and is probably just wanting attention. Hug him when you really want to beat him and it will give you both a special moment and then deal with the behavior. He won't be four for long! God bless.
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Post by tbhas6 on Sept 23, 2007 18:22:41 GMT -5
Keflavik,
Great advice! Countrymomof4's 4 year old sounds like my 5 year old! I wish I'd had this one at 20 instead of 37 - It's hard to admit that I don't run as fast as I used to and unfortuately my 5 year old runs faster than me. Consequently, I must be creative in finding ways to keep my busy, busy boy very busy - LOL.
Might I also add that scheduling daily one-on-one time with each of my children has helped? I give my 5 year old 20 minutes (that's all his attention span can handle) at the same time everyday. We play puzzles together, read together, wrestle together - whatever (within reason) he wants. That 20 minutes is HIS time and everyone else, not mom, looks out for each other during that time.
Countrymomof4, I'll remember you in my prayers ... tb
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