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Post by submisive2him on Jan 17, 2008 9:42:21 GMT -5
I have a 4 year old daughter and she is very loud and I was wondering if any ladies had any ideas of breaking her? ??
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Sister Michelle
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Post by Sister Michelle on Jan 17, 2008 11:14:35 GMT -5
No ideas here. Just had to laugh when I read that post. She is such a sweetie
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Post by tbhas6 on Jan 17, 2008 11:23:47 GMT -5
I once knew a pre-school Sunday school teacher who had some very loud students. One week she began teaching in a whisper. This forced the students to gather close, sit very still and very quiet. Within a couple weeks she had the quietest class in the church ... tb
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Post by submisive2him on Jan 17, 2008 16:27:42 GMT -5
Thanks michelle, she is a sweetie but a loud sweetie at that. Tb thank you for that post but my only problem is I am with her more than an hr and I don't think I can whisper all day
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Post by donna31 on Jan 17, 2008 18:59:32 GMT -5
My mom use to say that my son was very loud. (he is almost 8). Constant reminding is the only thing I can think of - maybe she will grow out of it so some extent. Mine seems to be a little quieter now than he use to be.
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Post by submisive2him on Jan 17, 2008 21:41:54 GMT -5
My oldest is 7 and he is not loud, sometimes when playing he can get a little loud but for the most part he is my calm one he is mellow and laid back.
My next to the oldest she is 4 and she is the loud one, I don't like to use this as an excuse but I think that it comes with her personality. She is going to be like her daddy she is a clown, she is one of the girls that is going to be fun when she is around she is going to keep the crowd entertained.
My 3rd child is much like his sister fun and is very entertaining but likes to show off a little more than I like. So we are trying to catch him a little earlier than his sister.
My 4th child is still to young she is 7 mo but the way that her personality is right now she is going to be more like the oldest. She is the best baby at this age than any of the others she is happy no matter where she is at and she only cry's when she is hungry or poopy.
Submisive
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Post by keflavik on Jan 18, 2008 10:58:32 GMT -5
Her loudness may be a way of getting attention. My 4-year old is louder than I would like too and I have attributed it to his way of being heard above the other children. He gets so frustrated when someone interupts and talks over him so he is just louder. Yet, when he is playing by himself, he is really rather quiet. When its just us, I have to remind him, (in a softer voice) "I'm right here. I can hear you. Talk quieter."
However, my days working in a preschool has taught me, too. Has she had any ear infections or signs thereof? Sometimes children will have an ear infection or fluid on the ear and never give us a sign of it unless it is oozing. This will cause them to be loud as well because they can't hear themselves talk. Much like a stuffed up head cold. While working at the preschool, I once lost my voice for three days. I had to whisper and use a lot of hand motions (snapping of fingers, clapping, even stomping) to get attention. And it was funny how everyone (even the parents) would whisper back. It was the quietest group of 4-year olds EVER! It reinforced to me that the tone of classroom is set by the teacher.
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Post by submisive2him on Jan 18, 2008 13:01:56 GMT -5
Keflavik You are so right when you said it is was the tone of the teacher that set the tone. I believe that the reason my 4 yr old is loud is because of me. I was raised in a loud home, not screaming or anything like that, the voices are just loud in general and I have been ( in my opinion ) doing well for my family sake, although sometimes I have moments.
Just pray for me I am really trying to break the loudness in the home and making it a little more peaceful. I do want to say that my daughter is very obedient when I ask her to lower her voice she does instantly she just forgets and gets louder and louder.
Submisive
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Post by samsgram on Feb 9, 2008 20:16:54 GMT -5
Submissive, I absolutely agree! My husband just has a loud voice, and one of my daughters has inherited it. As a result, her children speak very loudly.
Interestingly, when I have asked the kids to whisper, they can't. They just talk quieter. I wonder if it's just a genetic thing?
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Post by pursuer on Feb 11, 2008 21:49:55 GMT -5
Maybe sit down with her and have a brief talk beforehand, explaining that you won't respond to her when she yells, but will happily respond when she uses her "indoor voice," and then practice with her. I finally got my loud 5 year old girl to quiet doing this, along with teaching her there is a certain softness, the words I used were "like a feather" in a whispered voice. She loves "feather talking" now.
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