|
Post by gratefulmomof3 on Apr 9, 2007 18:24:16 GMT -5
Hello. I am new to this board. I only joined a few days ago. I have three children, ages 6, 4 and 16months. My husband is an over the road truck driver and home on weekends only. I homeschool my 6year old daughter for kindergarten and my 4 year old for preschool. My six year old has become out of control. She is mouthy, disrespectul, and rude. My husband says it is b/c we homeschool. If we put her into public school then she would learn to respect us. I know I should be submissive to my husband, but in my opinion I feel the problem is that she hasn't learned respect b/c she looks to us as role models and we don't show each other respect. When we fight, we are like children. I have taken her toys away, and don't know what else to do. Should I give up on my daughter and just send her to public school? Please any advice at all is welcome.
|
|
pam
Gracious Lady
Posts: 11
|
Post by pam on Apr 10, 2007 7:03:43 GMT -5
You could put her in school if that would relieve your stress. There's nothing wrong with that. You have 3 little ones. This is a busy time in your life and must be tiring ,too ,with your husband being gone so much. Don't be a martyr if you are miserable. But I don't think it would change the sassiness issue until you model better behavior yourself. The mother truly sets the tone for the home and your family will pick up on it. There's an old saying "if momma's not happy, nobody's happy" and that's very true. One year for homeschool, my goal for the whole year was child training. It was more important to me to work on being consistent, focusing on training those children. if it meant we stopped in the middle of a lesson...well, we stopped because the most important thing we do is train our children to be good people. Learning obedience is more important that book smarts. So maybe if you want to continue to homeschool, change your goals...focus more on child training and making a happy home, one your husband wants to come home too. It is no blessing for a child to grow up in a home where they were homeschooled if their only memories are of mom coming unglued.
|
|
|
Post by gratefulmomof3 on Apr 10, 2007 18:46:44 GMT -5
I think you are right about the memories of mom coming unglued! I have done alot of soul searching, and I do need to change my whole attitude. I think my husband and I need to be better role models for our kids. Thank you for your response!
|
|
terigoat
Gracious Lady
Homesteading & Homeschooling .....great together!
Posts: 10
|
Post by terigoat on Apr 15, 2007 9:22:38 GMT -5
I am a mom of 3. 2 of which are adult now and one is only 14. I have homeschooled all 3. I was also a dance teacher for 16 years while my 2 oldest were small. I was also heavily involved in many children ministries at our former church. (we recently moved and are seeking a new church). I have come to notice in my dealings with children, many children, believers and non-belivers, that homeschoolers were the most respectful. Public school seems to teach them too much. They seem to agree with their peers and not their families. Try unit studies, and you can have the 4 yo and the 6 yo together with hands on experinces. Also spend more time together outdoors conversing and looking at nature. Try nature studies. Create a nature journal together. You can purchas a good one online at www.pxpprint ing.com/nature. shtml> Talk to your child as a companion on these occasions and respect will come. I have found the most memerable conversations with my children was when we were on our nature outtings.Relax... Check out Charlotte Mason methods "The Gentle Art of Learning" as they say. Wander through www.amblesideonline.org for more info. We are also KONOS users. This type of learning and schooling creates a friendly balance between mom and child. Blessings Teri
|
|
|
Post by lavenderlady on Apr 15, 2007 10:59:33 GMT -5
Well, from what you have mentioned your daughters behavior does seem to be a reflection of the behavior that you show to each other as parents. Children see everything. Nothing is ever hidden in a family. imo. So, the work may just be for the two of you also.
As to submission. H has a valid point and you may just want to look into Christian Centered schools in your area. If they are pricey, and most are, maybe a scholarship? Then when the two of you have a better grounding in your marriage the homeschooling could start again at a later date.
First and formost... Give this to the Lord. Pray and challenge your own behaviors with the biblical standard. Seek your H support and be his support. Then accept his decistion about your child and marriage.
Love in Christ, LL
|
|
|
Post by bettyjo on Apr 16, 2007 0:26:10 GMT -5
Hi, I really don't think that putting her in school will change the problem. I've had this with my dd in the past and it does come at time. I look at it as a heart issue. I use a wonderful FREE training tool from Home Life Ministries call Character Journal. Here is the web site www.characterjournal.com/It has been a blessing for our family. Praying for you, Betty Jo "I'm not talking to myself....I'm having a parent/teacher conference."
|
|
terigoat
Gracious Lady
Homesteading & Homeschooling .....great together!
Posts: 10
|
Post by terigoat on Apr 16, 2007 15:59:42 GMT -5
I agree with Bettyjo By the way what a great website ... Blessings Teri
|
|